Keeping it Real: Unsolicited Advice in Pregnancy and How to Get Through It

I know I haven’t written in a while, we were busy with our latest new launches which have been very successful (thanks to you, guys!) and we also finally announced that I was pregnant! That’s right, we’re expecting our first child together and are beyond excited to meet him.  

 

So much has happened in the past month and a half and they have been amazing, but not without its fair share of challenges:

With good baby news also comes…unsolicited advice, opinions, pressure, etc. Blah, blah, bleh, you know the drill lol

 

There were a few reasons why I decided to keep my pregnancy low profile: I wanted to enjoy this news with my husband and close family, I wanted to make sure all is well with baby before announcing it to the world, and I also wanted to avoid anyone telling me anything about how I should be living my life during pregnancy *nervous laughs* 

 

But! 

 

…after my experience with how all of it went down, I am more than happy keeping it between the two of us next time (if we decide we decide on a next time.) 

 

Let me explain. 

 

I realized that a lot of the pressure, opinions, selfishness comes mainly from those closest to you in the first place. 

 

What makes matters worse is that you become more sensitive to things when you’re pregnant; hormones are going crazy and things that normally wouldn’t have bothered you, now do (or bother you 10x more than normal.) What I am trying to say is: it would be lovely if more people would talk about this. Pregnant women or mothers who have gone through any pregnancy experience that unfavorably impacted them would be such an amazing contribution to this community of otherwise strong women. 

 

I hope to bring some closure to the gap here. 

 

I won’t go in too much depth about my experience just yet but I will mention that I’ve realized people trying to live vicariously through me and my pregnancy. An issue I took seriously very instantly. My pregnancy is something I will not allow to be taken from me, this experience is mine and mine alone. No one else is growing a baby inside them and having to adjust their lives to make this new life possible. Not even the daddy, ladies. This is all you. And it’s beautiful, no one should make such a beautiful thing a challenging or unpleasant experience. 

 

I had people argue with me about my decision to keep this under wraps for so long, telling me when I will be announcing it, telling me I looked bigger from my face (lol really??) trying to shove baby shower plans down my throat at 4 weeks pregnant before I even had reassurance that I had a healthy baby and safely make it through the first trimester (I was also expected to cover most of the costs of the shower but, honey, we can talk about that later lol!)

 

All this can and will cause unnecessary stress for the mom-to-be. Why do it? You know what’s worse? All these rather negative approaches came from moms…women! You would think they’d understand to not do these things but I had to learn the hard way that it’s rarely the case. 

 

(To clarify, not my mom, she was much more supportive, thankfully.)

 

But so far, at 5 1/2 months, this is the great bulk of what I have experienced. And when I tell you I’m not the same woman as I was 5 months ago, I mean it. These experiences have taught me to protect my soul and peace, especially when there’s a little baby in your womb that feels everything. 

 

Standing your ground and not allowing other people to impose in decisions/opinions that aren't theirs to make is essential! I call it the beginning stages of “momma bear’” protection. Not only are you protecting yourself, but you are also protecting your little one, who’s most important. 

 

I have plans to elaborate more on this topic and build a community of women alike who have their own share of experiences! We are not alone! Some are just not vocal about it but I hope to bring change to that gradually.

 

Please comment down below if you have experienced anything similar or if you have any comments on what else I should cover next!

 

Thank you all for tuning in and I will see you on my next blog post!

 

Love,

Tréci

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